In 1975, at the age of 10, my parents divorced.  In the mid 1970's, the word divorce was still hardly uttered unless you were a celebrity; let alone resources out there to teach both parents how to parent from two different households.  It simply did not exist.  My dad, while I knew he loved me, struggled to be proactive because the pain he felt as he returned to the house he once lived, coping with the divorce and his choices, found himself being inconsistent in his parenting skills.  It was common place for "experts" to tell you to heal yourself, and the children will be fine.  It was a learning curve for society as a whole; yet nearly 30 years later, many dads still struggle with being proactive single parents.